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من ترا دوست میدارم
تو او را
و او دیگری را... رها
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1. Focus on the other
Being known as a "natural" at interpersonal communication is not just a gift that a select few enjoy. We can all enjoy the reputation of being "a great communicator".
Simply focus the conversation on the other person. This takes the pressure off you -- you don"t have to be a witty bon-vivant to be a great communicator.
Avoid interrogating your new acquaintance, and if you are really nervous do your best to control twitches and jittery movements. And (best hint coming...) ALWAYS slow your speaking rate down. Nervousness makes us talk too fast.
2. The eyes have it
Here"s a great "rule breaker": instead of sticking to the "respect someone"s privacy and personal space" rule, when you meet someone for the first time give them a good look right in the eyes.
It"s well known that when we look at someone we find attractive, our pupils dilate, a phenomenon that the other person instinctively picks up on. Well, that phenomenon can also be put to good use in our business dealings, too. Notice the other person"s eye colour, say "great" to yourself, and you"ll find yourself involuntarily smiling. The other person will pick up on your mood.
But try and avoid smiling lecherously, or as a vampire would when contemplating a tasty new neck...
3. Get over your "bad hair day"
Whilst "being yourself" is always a good thing for relational honesty, try and disguise your inherent pessimism and bad mood from new acquaintances.
Even though you know you are just "having a bad day" or a bad half-hour, the other person will probably decide that you are a "full-time whinger", an impression and reputation hard to shake.
A bad mood will spread contagiously, bringing down the other person too. Better to start off positively; you can always let them see your "other" side on another day...
4. "Mirror in the bathroom" **
Adjust your posture, voice and gestures to those of your new acquaintance. Establish rapport by mirroring their head nods and tilts. Speak at their pace and volume level. You"d be surprised by just how many different "voices" a successful salesperson uses in a day -- they spend a large amount of time mirroring the other person"s gestures, voice, language, pace, intonation and volume.
** (a wildly unsuccessful link to an 80s ska/reggae song)
5. Tread lightly...
He"s talking about his new Holden Commodore; you"re thinking of your new Impreza WRX. Or she"s talking about her latest small win at the office and you"re thinking about the new $1M account you just landed single-handed.
Which do you reckon will be more impressive: you gloating about your wins and toys, or you letting the other person have their 15 minutes of fame?
Good manners, as well as psychological research, dictate that to impress your guest you should always keep at the forefront of your mind the question, "How am I making the other person feel?"
Actively encourage others to talk about themselves, and respond genuinely -- without bringing it back to yourself.
6. Focus on their achievements
Use flattery sparingly but powerfully by focusing on the other person"s achievements, not their personal attributes. Even if they suspect you might be brown-nosing, they will still get a warm glow from a well-directed compliment. "You have a great eye for colour; I really like how you have put the office decor together" is more flattering than, "Nice office".
"I like your new BMW - you must be a real asset to the company for them to give it to you" is more flattering than, "So who did you suck up to?"
Similarly, "You have a great eye for colour; I really like how you"ve put your wardrobe together" works better than, "You look totally shaggable in that dress".
7. It"s never too late
Remember, there"s very little that is unfixable in our interpersonal business relationships. There is usually always another chance to fix false first impressions.
Let"s say you arrive at a meeting late, having just copped a parking ticket from the previous appointment. Your mood is not, as they might say, triumphant and glowing. Instead of responding appropriately to a new acquaintance"s polite greeting, you mumble a grumpy "yeah" and drop your laptop bag unceremonially into a nearby chair.
Okay, not a good start. But step outside the room for a moment, take a deep breath, count to seven (ten is too long a pause) re-enter the room and look your acquaintance in the eye. Apologise and explain why you are out of sorts. You might even want to turn it into a joke by saying something like, "I see you just met my evil twin."
And remember to cut others some slack if they make a bad first impression on you, too! What comes around, goes around...
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خیلی سال پیش که از سر الافی به روز هفتم گوش میکردم یکی نامه نوشته بود و از مایکل جکسون ترانهای خواسته بود و گفته بود از مهربونترین مرد دنیا برام ترانهای پخش کنید...هه هه هه...الان باید خیلی عزادار باشه طفلکی.مثل من که عزادارم اما نه برای مایکل بلکه برای آزادی و رهایی و تمام آنچه که اینروزها قربانی شده ...
LOS ANGELES – Michael Jackson still had a faint pulse and his body was warm when his doctor found him in bed and not breathing, a lawyer for the doctor told The Associated Press on Sunday.
Edward Chernoff also said Dr. Conrad Murray never prescribed or gave Jackson the drugs Demerol or OxyContin. He denied reports suggesting Murray gave Jackson drugs that contributed to his death.
Chernoff told the AP that Murray was at the pop icon"s rented mansion on Thursday afternoon when he discovered Jackson in bed and not breathing. The doctor immediately began administering CPR, Chernoff said.
"He just happened to find him in his bed, and he wasn"t breathing," the lawyer said. "Mr. Jackson was still warm and had a pulse."
Jackson"s family requested a private autopsy in part because of questions about Murray, the Rev. Jesse Jackson said Saturday. Murray also told the family an autopsy should be performed, Chernoff said.
Three days after the death of the King of Pop, celebrities descended on Los Angeles for a spectacular celebration of Jackson"s life at the annual BET awards show.
Joe Jackson, Michael"s father, walked on the red carpet wearing a black hat, sunglasses and a dark suit. He did not appear on stage during the show.
"I just wish he could be here to celebrate himself," he said. "Sadly, he"s not here, so I"m here to celebrate for him."
In a statement read at the show, Jackson"s parents said they solely had the personal and legal "authority for our son and his children." It was their strongest declaration yet about their son"s affairs.
A tearful Janet Jackson appeared on stage in a white dress at the end of the BET awards. After a long pause to gather herself, she spoke haltingly but deliberately to the audience.
"I"d just like to say that to you, Michael is an icon. To us, Michael is family. And he will forever live in all of our hearts," she said.
People close to Michael Jackson have said since his death that they were concerned about his use of painkillers. Los Angeles County medical examiners completed their autopsy Friday and said Jackson had taken unspecified preion medication.
Chernoff said any drugs the doctor gave Jackson were prescribed in response to a specific complaint from the entertainer.
"Dr. Murray has never prescribed nor administered Demerol to Michael Jackson," Chernoff said. "Not ever. Not that day. ... Not Oxycontin (either) for that matter."
Paramedics were called to the mansion while the doctor was performing CPR, according to a recording of the 911 call.
Because Jackson was so frail, Murray "administered with his hand behind his back to provide the necessary support," Chernoff said. Some have speculated the doctor botched the CPR.
"He"s a trained doctor," Chernoff said. "He knows how to administer CPR."
Medics spent three-quarters of an hour trying to revive Jackson. He was pronounced dead later at UCLA Medical Center.
Murray was interviewed by investigators for three hours Saturday. His spokeswoman called Murray "a witness to this tragedy," not a suspect in the death, and police described the doctor as cooperative.
The attorney said Murray will wait to speak publicly until after the police and forensics investigation is complete.
"One of his best friends just died, essentially in his arms — yeah he"s looking forward to telling his story," Chernoff said.
Chernoff also said the promoter of Jackson"s 50-show London concerts, AEG Live, owes the cardiologist $300,000.
"His contract with the promoters states he would receive an amount of money each month to be his (Jackson"s) personal physician and they have failed to honor that contract," Chernoff said. "They are two months behind."
Randy Phillips, president and CEO of AEG Live, acknowledged the contract called for Murray to be paid $150,000 a month, but said the contract required Jackson"s signature.
"Michael never signed the contract," Phillips said.
He also said the doctor"s claim for payment may be against Jackson"s estate, not AEG which was merely advancing the money to Jackson.
A private pathologist hired by the Jackson family completed a second, private autopsy Saturday, the Los Angeles Times reported, citing unnamed people familiar with the case.
A second autopsy can allow the family to get some information about a death almost immediately, including signs of heart, brain or lung disease or fresh needle punctures, said Dr. Michael Baden, a medical examiner not involved in the Jackson case.
"Usually if it looks normal with the naked eye, it looks normal under the microscope," said Baden, who recently performed a second autopsy on actor David Carradine.
Los Angeles County coroner"s officials said their autopsy found no indication of trauma or foul play. But because of additional tests, an official cause of death could take weeks to determine.
There was no word from the Jackson family on funeral plans. Many of Jackson"s relatives have gathered at the family"s Encino compound, caring there for Jackson"s three children.
Al Sharpton, who arrived in Los Angeles on Sunday afternoon, said he was heading to the Jackson compound and would talk with the family about how to memorialize the late pop star. Sharpton said they want to hold memorials in key cities around the globe and also planned a memorial service Tuesday at the Apollo Theater in New York.
It also wasn"t clear what would become of Jackson"s Neverland Ranch. Investor Thomas Barrack previously set up the joint venture with Michael Jackson after the singer nearly lost the ranch to foreclosure.
Barrack feels close to family members and wants to hear their thoughts on how best to honor Jackson"s memory, said Owen Blicksilver, a spokesman for Colony Capital LLC, the Los Angeles-based firm where Barrack is chairman and CEO. The investor joined Jackson"s brother Jackie, Jermaine and Tito for lunch Saturday at the sprawling Santa Barbara County property.
A White House adviser said on NBC"s "Meet the Press" that President Barack Obama had written to the Jackson family to express his condolences.
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congradulation
you win,you finally win and I lost,I lost my last hope for feeling peac and love in harmoney for my heart...you take my last dream out from me.Never again it wouldent makes me pacify,you know what I mean
It was my death
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If I could forgive anybody who decieved me,betrayed meor ruined my life
and torturing me
I couldnt forgive you all _my!!!_dear bro...s
and you da... esp. you
I hate you My dearest guys
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Love is not finding someone to live with.
It is finding some one you can"t live without!
Find me
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I think that the inner harmony and bright soul are the main elements of
happiness.It"s our inner paradise. I do not believe that money and wealth can make a man happy. I like my family. I think that warm and happy family - that is our first wealth. Don"t you think the same? I have lots of friends and I value each of them as a member of my family. I love my parents very much and they are the closest people for me. I am sure that they will support and understand me in any situations
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